My big bad good break-up…
Sorry to those of you who are here for the gory details of how and why I broke up with the love of my life. This is different kind of break-up and to me, somewhat more important. This is about how I broke up or rather am breaking up with…
S E L F – C O N S C I O U S N E S S
Some people call it shyness, being ill at ease, insecurity, I like to call it self-consciousness.I’ve realized that pretty much everyone struggles with this. This state of excessive self-awareness that cripples even the brightest and most gifted. Cautiously calculating every word, every gesture, every activity because everyone is watching you. They are watching your every move and waiting for you to make one mistake so they can pounce on you like the savages they truly are.
News flash!
NOBODY IS WATCHING YOU! THEY’RE TOO BUSY WATCHING THEMSELVES!
So stop over-analyzing everything. That lady looking straight at you is probably just lost in thought and that comment you made on facebook? It’s really not that big of a deal ! Stop thinking of past conversations and what you should have said or done because guess what? It’s in the past! Nothing you can do will change it so please move on.
There’s a difference between being self-aware and self-conscious. Self-awareness is understanding who you are as an individual; your strengths, weaknesses and how you relate with people. Self-consciousness on the other hand is putting limits to how you express yourself and it’s a trap.
Why?
Because it paralyses you and makes you a sucker for society’s approval. You’re way better than that. Your eyes are not too small. Your forehead is not too big. Your butt is not too big/small. You laugh is not too loud (or maybe it is) . The point is you’re perfect just the way you are.
You see, all those little things about you that are not ‘perfect’ in society’s eyes are what make you YOU!
So stop being so self-conscious ,cripple your fears and accept yourself because you, my friend are perfect in your imperfections.
You’re AMAZING just the way you are.
P.S : I’ve taken a huge step in breaking up with self-consciousness. I’ve joined orator’s club, it’s my school’s version of toastmasters and I’ll be giving my first speech pretty soon. Wish me luck!
Love,
The Venus Blogger
awwnn.. me love this dear, yes we have taken a bold step
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Thank you Dr.Sallie!!
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Away with self consciousness! Dat is the spirit👍
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thank you!!
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Yayy! this is officially one of my best posts! â¤
And I’d come watch you, even make funny faces while you make your speech í ½í¸.
Go gurl!
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Tosin!!!! Thanks so much girrrrrrl lol you’re the best
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Nyc write up.…… i learnt a lot .Thnks
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Thanks for reading!
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It’samazing to see you grow and step out of your comfort zone. I’m grateful to have you in my life. Okay sappiness overload. This is a great piece! We need to remember this more often
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Aww thanks love! Lol I like the sappiness😝
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Whao….ayam short of words…amazing wud b an understatement….More synovial fluid to ur elbow joint nd more adrenalline to kip u goin….
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Lol Samad you’re a clown
Thanks for reading
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I’m enthralled by this write up. God give you more wisdom!
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Thank you!!!
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I likey…I’m perfect just as I am
pls let us know when your first speech is holding😊😄…I must be there
keep it up Venus blogger
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Lol Dubem!!! Thanks so much
Ofcourse na😉
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Luck on ur speech
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Thank you
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The Venus blogger you’re doing great things here,you just made a lot of things clearer to me. Keep it up.Up venus!!!
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Thanks a lot
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Bestie mi…i really love this post, i have always been self conscious, because am big and i have a big butt and i really just lost confidence in my self but am i just realised you need to stop letting people’s words affect you so much and i have been trying to remind myself that….wonderful post s
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Aww I’m so glad this helped you 🙂 Thanks for reading! Love you B!
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